Seven Tips to Help Speed Up Your Divorce
Often divorces can be long and messy. Regardless of why a relationship ends, it can be emotional and difficult. It is harder when you have shared the majority of your life with your ex. If not handled correctly, divorces can last for months and cost a small fortune. That is why we have compiled a few tips to help speed up your divorce process.
Don’t Automatically Say No
When it comes to divorce, it might be your gut reaction to disagree with your ex. The more you and your ex disagree on decisions, the longer the divorce process will take. While you don’t have to compromise your desire and needs, to come into the divorce process with an open mind. The more you and your ex are willing to talk about your decisions, the quicker the process will be.
Be Courteous and Polite
By being respectful and cooperative, you set a tone of collaboration rather than combativeness. If you and your ex mutually agreed to obtain a divorce, it is only fair to be courteous to each other. If you and your ex argue through the proceedings, you will both be on the defensive and unlikely to listen and agree on a settlement.
Understand Your Ex’s Underlying Issues and Address Them
It may be difficult to understand where your spouse is coming from when you’re so focused on your own pain and welfare. But be trying to understand your ex’s motives, desires, and needs, you can better work with them. It will show that you respect them enough to listen to their needs and are coming from a collaborative space.
Often times when both spouses decide on a divorce, mediation might be the better option. Through mediation, the couple can come to a settlement outside of a court. They can also skip having a judge rule over their case and rather come to terms themselves.
Be Clear and Direct About What You Want
When going into divorce proceedings it is best to know exactly what you want out of the settlement. By clearly communicating your request, you and your spouse can decide what is best for both parties. This is not the time to send mixed signals. Hold your ground and stay focused.
Provide All the Necessary Information and Documents
It is imperative that you fill out all required forms and offer all the necessary information to help your divorce proceedings go smoothly. There is nothing as time consuming as fixing errors on documents, so make sure that all forms are filled out properly.
Try a Neutral Expert for Difficult Decisions
When it comes to children and finances, it can be difficult to remain cool and collected during negotiations. It might be beneficial to both parties to hire a neutral third party expert to help decide how you will split custody and assets.
At The Harris Law Firm, we know how difficult divorces can be. If you and your ex are separating, contact our Colorado divorce attorneys today. Our experienced divorce lawyers can review your case and inform you of your legal rights.