Helping Kids Cope
Colorado Divorce: Providing a Good Role Model for Your Children
According to Bill McLeod, author of "KICKIN BUTT AS A SINGLE PARENT", divorced parents should always seek to be good role models for their children. He says, "children may not always listen to you, but they will never fail to imitate you." You can pick up a copy of Bill's book, KICKIN BUTT AS A SINGLE PARENT", at Amazon.com
Colorado Divorce: Talking to Your Children Together
When you and your spouse decide to separate and divorce, it is important to tell the children together (or if that is not possible) tell them the same thing. Children will have been aware of the problems in the relationship and may have been worrying about a divorce. They may be concerned that their behavior is the reason for the separation. At this point, it is good for parents to meet with a Child Specialist to talk about how to tell the children about the divorce. The child specialist can help you make the information fit the child’s developmental stage so that …
Unmarried Fathers and the Allocation of Parental Rights
For an unmarried father to have parenting time in the State of Colorado, he must first file for the allocation of parental rights (APR) in the county where the child resides. ( If he is not on the birth certificate, he must begin the process by establishing paternity. To confirm parentage, he must submit to a DNA test, and if the test is confirmed, he can file for the APR) The court ordered APR will establish the father's paternal rights to parenting time, it will determine of the amount of child support due, and it will define decision making rights …
Helping Your Kids Cope with a Colorado Divorce
Talk to your children about how they are feeling during this difficult time. Divorce can leave deep emotional scars on children, and communicating with them about what is going on is imperative to their healing process. Be there for them when they need you, and discuss how this transition is going to evolve over time. But most importantly, let your behavior set an example for your kids, create structure in their lives, and let them know that you are there for them. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law …
INTERNET SAFETY for COLORADO KIDS
CHEEZO INTERNET SAFETY for COLORADO KIDS Sponsored by THE HARRIS LAW FIRM 303-299-9484 Cheezo provides internet safety programs for school age children in the State of Colorado. The Cheezo Internet Safety Team, headed by Investigator Mike Harris, was the first to conduct internet investigations starting in 1996, and since the programs inception, the team has provided over 2,000 educational presentations. Our program is designed for the age specific audience, and organized in an assembly format. You can schedule a presentation with the Cheezo Team from Januar …
Mom and Dad's Colorado Divorce
Dear Mom and Dad: I know you are divorcing, and you say it is for the best, but please know that there are things that I need from both of you during this sad and confusing time: I need you both, so please stay involved in my life. Your presence makes me feel safe. If we cannot see each other every day, please call, text, email Skype,and/or write letters, and ask me lots of questions. When you are involved in my life, I feel loved. Don’t argue, bicker and fight, but instead, try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I feel …
Keeping Your Colorado Kids Internet Safe
http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/internet-safety-for-colorado-kids CHEEZO: INTERNET SAFETY for COLORADO KIDS Sponsored by THE HARRIS LAW FIRM 303-299-9484 Cheezo provides internet safety programs for school age children in the State of Colorado. The Cheezo Internet Safety Team, headed by Investigator Mike Harris, was the first to conduct internet investigations starting in 1996, and since the programs inception, the team has provided over 2,000 educational presentations. Our program is designed for the age specific audience, and organized in an assembly format. …
Carla Scarpone Raising Funds for Breakthrough at Kent Denver
Carla Scarpone, an attorney with The Harris Law Firm, is on the board for the local chapter of a national non-profit organization, Breakthrough. The mission of Breakthrough is two-fold: first, to increase the educational and social opportunities of motivated, under-resourced, urban, middle school students, through a quality year-round program; and second, to motivate and train talented high school and college students for careers in education. Breakthrough’s annual fundraising event is called “Give Your Love.” This year’s event will take p …
Helping Your Kids Cope with Legal Separation or Colorado Divorce
If your children are having difficulties coping with your separation or divorce in Colorado, get them some help. Go to the Resource Section of our website and access HELPING KIDS COPE in the drop down box then go to the THERAPISTS tab to find many qualified children's counselors in your area. Or simply click here: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/resource-center/helping-kids-cope/therapists Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Colorado Divorce and Colorado Ch …
Can I Obtain Legal Guardianship of My 15 Year Old Sister?
Guardianships always require the permission of the parent, so an informal guardianship will work as long as the minor child's mother agrees that the child should live with you. There is a form JDF 751 that allows the mother to delegate to you most of the decision making for the child. Schools in the Metro area generally allow a child to be enrolled based on this form. Whether she can be on your health insurance will depend on your health insurance provider. This type of guardianship is relatively easy, inexpensive and effective. If the mother ask …
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Siblings to Sue Adams County Social Services for Failure to Protect Them
DENVER (AP) - The Colorado Court of Appeals has ruled that three siblings can sue Adams County social workers over their alleged failure to protect them from abuse. The children were preteens when they told adoptive parents they were severely abused in the home of their biological mother and later in foster care. According to the Denver Post, the adoptive parents lost a lawsuit against Adams County over claims that social workers had a duty to disclose the children's background. Thursday's ruling allows lawyers for the children to proceed with claims that the children had a right to be free …
Before you name your child, take a look at this list!
This week the Pope declared war on parents naming babies after celebrities, fruit or popular sports cars. In an address to parents, the ever-progressive pontiff pleaded with worshipers to 'give your children names that are in the Christian calendar'. So Apple, Brooklyn and Ferrari are out, Francisco and Giulia are in. But Benedict's not the only authority figure to stamp down on one of the sillier by-products of celebrity culture. The following names have all been banned around the world for reasons of taste, decency or just plain daftness. 1) Talula Does The Hula …
Helping Kids Cope with Divorce
1998 - Random House - Paperback - 1st Edition Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way By M. Gary Neuman L.M.H.C. With Patricia Romanowski New - Collectible Divorce is painful and confusing. Perhaps now more than ever, you want to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but everything seems harder and more complicated. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way can help. Based on Gary Neuman's phenomenally successful Sandcastles program, which has helped more than fifty thousand children cope with divorce, th …
Attorney-Client Relationship as it Pertains to the Guardian Ad Litem
People v. Gabriesheski¸ ___ P.3d _____ (Colo. 2011) In this criminal case involving sexual assault on a child, the Colorado Supreme Court held that no attorney-client relationship existed between a child and a guardian ad litem. With all due respect to the majority, Justice Maritnez’s Dissent (in which Justice Bender joins) is far more persuasive, well reasoned, and truly representative of the role of the Guardian ad Litem. …
The Harris Law Firm Supports the Women and Children of The Haven
The Harris Law Firm supported the women and children of The Haven at a fundraiser on October 18th at the Denver Athletic Club. The Haven is an 89-bed Modified Therapeutic Community (MTC) located in Denver, Colorado for women, mothers and their infants. Licensed by the Colorado Alcohol and Drug Abuse Division (ADAD), the program offers long-term, intensive treatment for clients with addictions. Clients are referred from the Department of Human Services, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), the criminal justice system, homeless shelters, friends and family members, or through self-re …
A Consistent Parenting Plan Can Comfort Your Child
Creating daily schedules and consistent organization in the lives of younger children can bring them comfort during your divorce. Although this concept is widely recognized in the world of child psychology, many parents are unware that the implementation of routines are also helpful to older children as well. Consistency makes people, and especially children, feel safer and more secure because they know what to expect. Knowing that routines are in place, even when have to go between the homes of their parents, ca …
"Bad Mothering" Lawsuit Dismissed
Margaret Walker, a Senior Attorney at The Harris Law Firm commented the following article from the Chicago Tribune, and addresses the degree of harm that can be caused by one parent attempting to alienate their children's other parent: "This shows how far some parents would go to inflict pain on the other parent. There is no way to imagine the pain that has been inflicted on the children, however. Children can thrive during and after a divorce if parents work together to support the child’s relationship with the other parent. Children can be reduced to …
Don't Forget to Take Care of You While Taking Care of Your Kids
Yes, divorce is hard on your kids too, but remember to take good care of yourself while you are all experiencing this tremendous loss of family. When you take care of yourself, you will have the strength and optimism necessary to share with your kids during this trying time. Take time with your friends, talk to a counselor, and try to schedule some alone time to reflect and to strategize. You must stay strong, or you will not be able to be the parent your children need you to be. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's lar …
Never Bad Mouth Your Ex to Your Kids
According to Bill McLeod, Colorado author of the new book "KICKIN' BUTT AS A SINGLE PARENT", it is important to spare your child's feelings by never making disparaging remarks about their other parent. Although that person may be your loathsome former partner, it is important to remember that he or she is also your child's mom or dad. According to Bill, when you say unpleasant things about your ex in front of the children, they will remember your unfortunate comment long after you have forgotten it. Know that …
Stephen Vertucci with The Harris Law Firm Volunteers for Kids in Fort Collins
This past week, Stephen Vertucci, Partner with The Harris Law Firm in Fort Collins, volunteered with the Fort Collins Breakfast Rotary Club to raise funds for “Eat a Peach for a Third Grader” program. This program sells western slope grown peaches to support the purchase of hard cover, full color, dictionaries for every third grade student in the Poudre Valley school district. This program has become a Poudre Valley School District tradition and something each third grader looks forward to each year! For more information about how you can purchase a ca …
Helping children cope with divorce: Listen and reassure
Helping children cope with divorce: Listen and reassure Support your children by helping them to express their emotions, and commit to listening to their feelings without becoming defensive. Your job is to reassure them and address their fears and clear up misunderstandings. Show them your unconditional love. The bottom line: kids need to know that your divorce is not their fault.
What is the best parenting plan?
Prospective clients on the verge of divorce often ask, "What is the best parenting plan for our children? Some therapists say that depending on the age of the kids, equal time in parenting is not always the best solution. Younger children, infants and toddlers, often need more consistency in their lives, and being shuffled between two homes can be problematic for them. Studies indicate that when the children are about 3 years old, they become more able to balance being in two homes without showing signs of stress. Counselors also say that it isnt the am …
A "Must Read" New Book for Single Parents!
This New Book by Bill McLeod is a "Must Read" for Newly Divorced and Single Parents Everywhere! Kicking Butt as a Single Parent by Bill McLeod has 99 tips that every single parent must have! Go to Amazon.com to order now!
2 Types of Grandparents Rights in the State of Colorado
There are two types of cases involving grandparent’s rights: 1. In order to file for grandparent’s visitation, there needs must be an existing Court action open, or the grandparent’s child (the child’s parent) needs to be deceased. 2. In order to file for the allocation of parental responsibilities, the child must have been in the grandparent’s physical custody for at least 6 months.? * Another option for grandparents entails filing for guardianship, which would require that the grandparent petition the court. Generally, speak …
Kids: It's Not Your Fault!
Children often feel that they are responsible for their parents divorce because they remember the times they argued with their parents, or got in trouble. Help your children let go of this misconception by talking to them and addressing the following points: Explain to your children why you and their other parent decided to obtain a divorce. This can be a sensitive subject, and you will have to careful about the details, but letting the kids know the real reasons for your decision can help them to understand that your divorce was not their fault.& …
Divorce Affects Children's Social Skills and Academic Progress
Young children whose parents have divorced not only struggle with anxiety and depression that affects their social skills for at least two years after the divorce but they also have difficulty with math skills. YAHOO = window.YAHOO || {}; YAHOO.Media = YAHOO.Media || {}; YAHOO.Media.SocialButtons = YAHOO.Media.SocialButtons || {}; (function(){ var o_facebook_iframe_url="http://l.yimg.com/b/social_buttons/facebook-share-iframe.php?u={url}&t={title}"; YAHOO.Media.SocialButtons.conf = { tracking: { _S: 97631923, …
Should I Introduce My Child to the Person I am Dating?
You don't tell your child everything about your life, and you don't need to introduce them to everyone you know. If you have dated a person for several weeks following your divorce, you do not have to keep your dates a secret, but delay introducing this person to your children until you have created some history together. You don't have to wait forever, but wait until the relationship has reached a level of stability. When you two are serious about creating a future together, that is the time to introduce the children. Kids often form attachments quickly, and when a person …
Dont Ask Your Child to be the "Go Between" in Your Divorce
Triangulation sometimes occurs during the divorce process when a third party is drawn into the demise of a couple's relationship. At best, the Go-between” can act as a mediator, but at worst can help to create a communication breakdown between the divorcing parties . Unfortunately , children sometimes try to act as the “Go-Between” for their divorcing or divorced parents, trying to bridge the gap between them. Parents can also put their children in the middle by asking them for information about the other spou …
Attorney Stephen Vertucci Talks to High School Students About Career in Law
Attorney Stephen Vertucci volunteered at the Rocky Mountain High School Career Expo this week to answer questions from graduating high school students who have an interest in becoming an attorney. Discussions ranged from describing “a day in the life” of an attorney, what it is like to take a bar exam to describing what your first year of law school will be like. This program was coordinated through the Fort Collins Breakfast Rotary Club Vocational Services Committee, of which Mr. Vertucci is a member.
New Rules Will Guide Child Family Investigators
Please note the following changes that have been made to CJD 04-08 and JDF 1318. CJD 04-08 Amended April 14, 2011 – Appointments of Child and Family Investigators Pursuant to C.R.S. 14-10-116.5 and revised JDF 1318 Order Appointing Child and Family Investigator * The CJD and JDF 1318 Order of Appointment were changed to: 1. Establish a cap of $2,000.00 for the investigation and report; 2. Require further order of the court and specific findings of extraordinary circumstances to justify fees and costs that exceed the cap; 3. Eliminate the CFIs authority t …
Divorce is Difficult for Kids Too!
Help your kids get through this period in a manner that minimizes their stress: Do not argue in front of your children: Whether in person or on the phone, do not have heated conversations with the other parent when your children can hear what you are saying. Keep the details of your divorce private: The details of your divorce should remain between you and former spouse. Do not involve your children in matters that should remain private. Be Civil . Keep your interactions with your ex spouse civil and professional. Set a good example for your kids and …
Fort Collins Family Law Cases
For Colorado divorce and child custody issues in Weld, Larimer, Boulder counties and Loveland, call The Harris Law Firm in Fort Collins. Partner Steve Vertucci and Jonathan White can be reached at 970 472 1838. The office is located at 123 North College, in the Executive Suite #200.The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's Family Law Team.
Will Charlie Sheen Have Unsupervised Parenting Time?
Per the attorneys at The Harris Law Firm, it is very possible that actor Charlie Sheen will have his parenting time modified soon. Sheen and his soon to be ex wife Brooke Mueller have 2 year old twin sons, Bob and Max, and he also has 2 young daughters, Sam 6, and Lola 5, by former wife Denise Richards. Following his very recent and ongoing public rages, the apparent mental decline of the actor is of the utmost concern to the mothers of his children. Given the public nature of his exploits, alleged drug abuse, and the questionable compan …
Your Kids Need a Relationship with You and Your Ex
When you find yourself struggling with your former spouse regarding parenting issues, remember the following: Your Kids Need a Relationship with Both Parents. Following a Colorado Divorce, it is important to know that your children need to have a good relationship with both parents. Be Flexible and Be Willing to Compromise: Keep your kids best interests in mind, you may be able to avoid disagreements about the daily details of your parenting plan. Take a Deep Breath. Stay calm and think about what is best for your children. Keep their best in …
Divorcing Wisely
Divorce is an unpleasant process for all concerned, but if you proceed wisely you can minimize the pain: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/process.cfm?task=admin.editPage&pageId=345 Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Colorado Divorce and Colorado Child Custody and Support, the firm's philosophy is to work with you to resolve your legal matter in the best way possible. When you consult with one of our attorneys, the expert legal advice you receive will help you understand y …
Merry Christmas at The Arapahoe House from The Harris Law Firm!
www.arapahoehouse.org Jenny Kang, a Paralegal with The Harris Law Firm collected a sleigh-load of gifts for the families of the Arapahoe House. Arapahoe House is a non-profit corporation dedicated to providing a continuum of accessible, affordable, and effective services for individuals and families with alcohol, drug or other behavioral health problems. Thank you Jenny Kang!
What is a "No Fault" Divorce?
A "No fault" divorce means that the Colorado divorce courts do not inquire into the reasons for the dissolution of marriage. The reasons for your divorce or legal separation may include issues like infidelity, lack of communication, and/or problems regarding money. Although the reasons for the termination of your marriage are important to you, and addressing them will be equally important as you move through the divorce process with your divorce attorney, the Colorado courts are focused on having you divide your martial assets and debt in an equitable manner and cr …
Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce
What I need from my mom and dad: A child’s list of wants I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me. Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty. I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time …
The Cost of High Conflict Marriages and Divorces
In my work with children and families over the years, I have seen many children who are caught up in the conflict of their parents, whether they are together or not. Next to abuse and abandonment, seeing children involved in a high conflict custody battle or exposed to daily parental conflict, is particularly devastating. Unfortunately children too often become emotional pawns between warring parents and they feel powerless, confused and anxious. While no well meaning parent really wants to hurt their children, it is easy for parents who are in pain or are in a lot of conflict, to lose sight …
Helping Your Kids Cope During the Divorce Process
Although divorce is a painful and difficult transition for you and your spouse, it is important to remember that a divorce or legal separation is also a challenging time for your kids. To help your children through this trying time, we have provided a list of things that you can do to help your kids through the changes you are facing separately and together: Don't ask your kids to take sides in your divorce. Tell them that you love them, and will allow and encourage them to love both parents. Tell your children that your divorce is NOT your fault. Tel …
Partner Stephen Vertucci Promotes Literacy in Fort Collins
As a part of the Fort Collins Rotary Breakfast Club, Stephen Vertucci, Partner with The Harris Law Firm, sells Palisade peaches to raise funds to purchase hard cover, color dictionaries to be given to each third grader in the Poudre Valley school district. The program is a part of Rotary READ, a section of Rotary devoted to promoting literacy and enthusiasm for reading among elementary students in the Fort Collins area. This year’s program was a resounding success. Over 1800 cases of peaches were sold which helped purchase 2500 dictionaries. In September, Mr. V …
Kids' Divorce Art Gallery - Helping Kids Cope
From the Colorado Center for Divorce Mediation, please visit their Kids’ Divorce Art Gallery: Expressive Imagery of Children's Experience of Divorce To access, please go to the following site: http://www.coloradodivorcemediation.com/art/gallery.asp As goes the Chinese proverb, “A picture is worth ten thousand words.” Listen as young artists speak:
The best parenting plan allows both parents to be involved in the life of the child.
Children of divorce need to be allowed to have healthy and separate relationships with both parents. If one parent has a strained relationship with the other parent, and/or decides that the behavior of the other parent is inappropriate for the child, they must work to resolve the issue without involving the child. Children must be free to create a relationship with their other parent on their own terms without undue influence. Parents who are obsessed with alienating their child from the other parent are often vehement in …
The "Pack to School" Program!
Stephen Vertucci, a partner with The Harris Law Firm, recently volunteered for the Education & Life Training Center's "Pack 2 School" program in Fort Collins. For over 40 years, the center has provided children of income qualified families with new school supplies. The program is unique in that it allows the children to choose their own supplies in the colors and styles of their choice! This year, the program provided supplies to over1,000 students! Thank you Stephen!
Helping Kids Cope
What I need from my mom and dad: A child's list of wants I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you do not stay involved, I feel like i am m not important and that you do not t really love me. Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty. I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of …
What I need from my mom and dad: A child’s list of wants
I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me. Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty. I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you. If you act jealous or upset, I f …
Divorce Not Always Bad for Kids
New study shows that divorce is not always bad for the kids. To access this article, please click here: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/divorce-not-always-bad-for-kids
Preserving Children's Rights
Rich Harris of The Harris Law Firm and Representative Debbie Benefield, D-Arvada worked to help pass Bill 1097. The bill was designed to protect the children of unmarried parents, allowing them the same rights as those of divorced parents. The bill fixes an anomaly in the Colorado family law statutes. Read more at: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/process.cfm?task=admin.editPage&pageId=313
Rich Harris Urges Parents to Put Children First in Divorce Cases
Rich Harris commented this week on Tom Martino’s radio show on 630 KHOW on the impact of divorce on children.? Decades of studies show that the magnitude of the harm on children is commensurate with the level of conflict during the divorce.? Harris urged couples to be careful to keep their kids long-term interests at heart, and to be sure to work with attorneys who have settlement of cases as their central focus.
Helping Your Kids Adjust to Divorce
When you and your spouse are going through a divorce, there are many ways in which you can be of assistance to your children. But most importantly, your positive attitude, ongoing patience, reassurance, and consistent willingness to listen to your children's concerns can minimize your kids anxiety as they learn to navigate the many changes they will experience during the divorce process. By providing consistency in their lives, you will be reminding them that they can count on you for stability, structure, and care. And by maintaining a positive working …
Your Children Come First
Even though your entire family must deal with the challenges inherent in the divorce process, you can help your children cope with your pending divorce by taking care of yourself. Make sure that you have a healthy support system of friends, family and mental health professionals who will be there for you as you face the many changes ahead. When dealing with your children, begin by reassuring them with your own positive attitude, and seek to provide stability in their physical environment while attending to their emotional needs. …
Your Children are not Responsible for Your Colorado Divorce
Clearing up misunderstandings Many kids believe that they had something to do with the divorce, recalling times they argued with their parents, received poor grades, or got in trouble. You can help your kids let go of this misconception. Set the record straight. Repeat why you decided to get a divorce. Sometimes hearing the real reason for your decision can help. Be patient. Kids may seem to “get it” one day and be unsure the next. Treat your child’s confusion or misunderstandings with patience. Reassure. As often as you need to, remind your children that bo …
Putting the Children First
"The best interests of the children" is a phrase used in Colorado family law matters to determine the division of parental responsibilities. The Colorado courts consider many factors to define the best interests of the children involved, but perhaps the most important is if parents actions indicate that they place their children’s needs above their own. The parent who puts their children’s needs first is the parent who behaves in a civil manner at transfers so that their children don’t have to hear the animosity and bitterness that often exists between their pa …
Helping Kids Survive Divorce
Top 3 Tips to Help Your Kids Survive Your Divorce: Establish an appropriate support system for the kids, through peers, extended family, school counselors and teachers. Each parent should get their own support system…parents should not rely on their children for emotional support at this time, it is too much of an emotional burden on the children. Keep stability in the children’s lives. Try and maintain consistent discipline between the 2 households and maintain daily routines.
Attorney Carla Scarpone on Breakthrough Kent Denver Advancement Committee
Carla Scarpone, a family law attorney with The Harris Law Firm, is on the Advancement Committee for Breakthrough Kent Denver. Breakthrough is a national non-profit organization with a local office housed at Kent that has been in existence for 15 years. They have a dual mission: to provide under-resourced Denver Public Middle School students with an academically rigorous program to ensure that they graduate from high school and go onto college, and second to train high school and college aged students to become urban educators. Through her work on this committee, s …
Attorney Mike Cheroutes Handles International Child Abduction Cases
The Brazilian Supreme court ruled yesterday that nine-year-old Sean Goldman, who is currently residing in Brazil, be returned to his father, David Goldman, a U.S. citizen. The court's decision in this custody case came just after another ruling that was issued days earlier ordering Sean Goldman to remain in Brazil. Sean Goldman's Brazilian grandmother and stepfather allegedly said they would not appeal the court's decision because they did not want Sean to suffer any additional court battles. Previously, the boy's Brazilian family insisted S …
New Years Resolution:Healing the Pain of Divorce
For people facing the pain of divorce or separation, the New Year is a good time to commit to the healing process. A marital breakup can be devastating because it will affect your emotions, self-esteem, children, finances and energy levels. With so much personal upheaval, most people going through divorce are unsure of how to find healing from the hurt, and hope for the future. Many experience a breakthrough in this process by attending recovery support groups. The groups are made up of people who understand the depth of emotions and the "Why?" inherent in the divorce process …
Orders of Protection
Orders of protection can be obtained by individuals to prevent stalking, abuse, or the threat of abuse. At the initial court appearance, the protected party may receive a temporary protective order. Approximately 14 days later, the protected party must attend a second hearing to make the temporation order of protection permanent. The restrained party must attend in order to contest the order. Both parties must meet the court's procedural requirements and provide the burden of proof to either enforce, or contest a protection order. Locat …
Attorney Stephen Vertucci Promotes Literacy Program in Fort Collins
Stephen Vertucci, a family law attorney with The Harris Law Firm and a member of the Rotary READ Committee, recently traveled to St. Joseph’s Catholic School on November 4th in Fort Collins to distribute hard cover dictionaries to each third grade student. These beautiful dictionaries were purchased entirely through efforts from the Fort Collins Breakfast Club’s annual peach sale fundraising drive. Over 1,900 cases of western slope peaches were sold which purchased a hard cover dictionary for each third grade student in Fort Collins and the Poudre Valley School District …
The Determination of Paternity - Who's Your Daddy?
Michael Cheroutes, Jr., a partner at The Harris Law Firm say, "The father's name that appears on the birth certificate is not the final determination of paternity. Generally, the father who is named on the birth certificate can institute a paternity proceeding and request genetic testing to dispute paternity up until the time the child is five years old."
Attorney Jennie Wray to Ski at the Pink Chase Fundraiser!
"Pink Chase" is an upcoming fundraiser that will allow women of all ages and disciplines to get involved in an all women's snow event! Attorney Jennie Wray with The Harris Law Firm will help make a difference by participating in this fundraiser for the Breast Cancer Research Foundation (BCRF)! Eveyone will have the oppportunity to win great prizes and have a ton of fun skiing and riding with the K2 Alliance, their friends and other women teams for a day! On December 12th, 2009 at Keystone Resort, CO, teams of 3 women will compete against each other by trying to ski …
Claiming Your Child as a Tax Deduction
Unless otherwise agreed upon by the parties, the Colorado court shall allocate the right to claim dependent children for income tax purposes between the parties. These rights shall be allocated between the parties in proportion to their contributions to the costs of raising the children. A parent shall not, however, be entitled to claim a child as a dependent if he or she has not paid all court-ordered child support for that tax year or if claiming the child as a dependent would not result in any tax benefit. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris La …
Balloon Boy - Is it Abuse?
Balloon Boy – Is it Abuse? There is a public outcry over the recent incident involving 6-year old, Falcon Heene. Heene’s parents, Richard and Mayumi, of Fort Collins, Colorado, are under criminal investigation by the Larimer County Sheriff’s Office for, among other things, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, false reporting, and other crimes. Since flights were apparently disrupted at DIA, federal charges may also be forthcoming. People around the country, indeed, around the world, are understandably outraged at what now appears to have been a taw …
Have the Parents Endangered Colorado's Balloon Boy?
In spite of public outcry to have Colorado Social Services remove the “Balloon Boy” from his parental home, the question remains, “Is there enough evidence to support child endangerment?” The bizarre balloon incident took place on October 15, 2009, and attracted world-wide attention when six-year-old Falcon Heene from Fort Collins, Colorado was mistakenly believed to be traveling at altitudes reaching 15,000 feet in a homemade helium balloon. Although charges have not been filed, authorities expect to recommend felony charges including conspiracy and contributing to the …
International Child Abduction in Japan
On Friday, October 16th, U.S. Ambassador John Roos and ambassadors from Australia, Britain, Canada, France, Italy, New Zealand and Spain urged Japan to resolve a growing number of international child custody disputes. On October 15th, Japanese police freed an American man accused of abducting his own children. Japanese law currently allows only one divorced parent to act as custodian, and in these cases, the custodial parent is usually the mother. Unfortunately this leaves many dads without parenting time until their children have reached the age of majority.&nbs …
Christy Brinkley's Ex-Husband Wants Her in Jail
A year after their divorce, supermodel Christy Brinkley and her philandering ex husband Peter Cook fought a new battle in a New York courtroom yesterday. Both parties charged the other with violating terms of their settlement. Unable to come to an agreement, a subsequent hearing will be held on Tuesday. Peter Cook, whose affair with a local teenager ended their marriage, claims Brinkley is trying to alienate their 2 kids from him. Cook claimed that Brinkley's refusal to provide him with their son's passport resulted in the child being unable to go on a school trip to …
Kate Plus Eight, Plus Alimony?
Jon Gosselin Puts Divorce On Hold Jon Gosselin could be angling for maintenance as the reality TV star since he has delayed his divorce from Kate Gosselin. The news comes on the same day that Jon Gosselin's starring role was eliminated from the reality show "Jon & Kate Plus 8." Gosselin's lawyer filed to delay the divorce by as much as 90 days. Jon Gosselin is telling the press he wants to postpone the hearing in order to have the time necessary to improve his relationship with his wife for the benefit his children. "I regret my conduct since Kate …
Divorcing when one party is living out of state
If you can work out an agreement with your soon to be former spouse, you do not necessarily have to be present for any part of the proceeds. Most of the work can be accomplished via mail, phone, fax, or email, but in the event that there is a trial you would likely want to be present for that. Please note that some judges are very flexible about telephone testimony, but others require attendance in person. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Colorado Divorce and …
Free Seminar at The Harris Law Firm
The Harris Law Firm's free "Questions About Divorce Seminar" will be held on Tuesday, September 15th from 12 pm to 1pm at the firm. The Harris Law Firm is located at 1125 17th Street, Suite 1820, Denver, CO 80202. To RSVP, please call 303 299 9484. Space is limited!
New Guidebook for Those Considering Divorce
For individuals contemplating divorce, a free guidebook offers answers to many questions they may be asking themselves, and some they may not have even thought about. Brigham Young University professor of family life Alan Hawkins and divorce attorney Tamara Fackrell have teamed up to write "Should I Keep Trying to Work It Out? A Guidebook for Individuals and Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce." The 168-page guidebook is a cross between an encyclopedia of divorce issues and a workbook for couples who are trying to decide if they should end their marriage or try to work thr …
Out of State Parenting Time
If your child is spending time with their other parent in a state other than the one that issued the original order, it is wise to file the order in the new state. If the parent in the new state does not follow the original order and , for instance, refuses to return the child on time, you will already have a case in the new state. This will make it easier for you to ask for help from the new state to enforce your valid order. You will need a certified copy of the order along with a Petition to have the new state recognize the order. The new state does not have the powe …
No More Wrestling With Parents Divorce
Brooke Hogan, daughter of wrestler "Hulk Hogan", was overjoyed when she heard the news that her parents divorce was over. Not the typical response of a child who parents are separating, but when the national tabloids are covering your parents divorce, it makes sense. "I was relieved to hear that the divorce papers were finally signed, sealed and delivered", Brooke said in a recent interview, "They just were not good together and now it's over and everything is done. You guys dont have to hate each other anymore." Brooke Hogan currently has a reality TV show …
Summer Vacations with Your Children
Some parenting plans require that a parent get approval from the other parent prior to travel, so it is important review the provisions prior to making your summer travel plans for your children. It the agreement is silent on the issue of traveling then no formal requirements must be followed, but as a matter of courtesy, the parent should provide the other party with ample notice, phone numbers where you can be reached and an intinary of all travel plans.
Mom of King of Pop Gets the Kids
Katherine Jackson will raise her son's 3 children under an agreement with the King of Pop's ex-wife, who will have visitation rights under the supervision of a child psychologist, attorneys said Thursday. The agreement calls for Michael Jackson's mother to remain guardian of the pop icon's three children, who range in ages from 7 to 12, in accordance with wishes spelled out in the singer's 2002 will. No money is changing hands as a result of the agreement, the statement said. Deborah Rowe, the biological mother of the two oldest children who has been largely absent from their lives, gets …
Kids Better Off With Both Biological Parents
Sara McLanahan, single mom, Princeton Sociologist and author of "Growing Up with a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps" has studied children of divorce. Her research indicates that "Children who grow up in a household with only one biological parent are worse off, on average, than children who grow up in a household with both of their biological parents, regardless of the parents' race or educational background.
Couples Counseling: Doing the Work
Many couples try counseling, but find that the therapist is not providing them with the answers they need to fix to their problems. It's important for couples to realize that it is not the therapist who will repair your relationship, but you who must be committed to finding the answers by working within the therapeutic process: Here are 4 important tips for making therapy work for your and your spouse: 1. Have a goal in mind. Don't become mired in the past and focus on the myriad of injustices that you have endured, but move on and decide where you want the relationship to go. 2. F …
Workshop for Kids of Divorce
United Action for Youth (UAY) in Iowa City will be providing kids with educational workshops to deal with their parents divorce. People who have filed for divorce since May 26 will be ordered by the courts to enroll their children in the 2.5 hour program. UAY directors say that children are too often left to fend for themselves emotionaly while their parents are dealing with the repercussions of divorce proceedings, and the workshop can provide a place for kids to express their feelings. UAY says the workshops are designed to incorporate an interactive and educational environment that includes …
Will a Modification of the Parenting Plan Supplant the Original Court
Generally, when there is a modification of a previous court order, it does supplant the original order. However, if there are aspects that were not dealt with in the modification order, it is possible that those portions will remain in effect.
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Earl Spencer Plans Out of Court Settlement to Avoid Publicity
Lawyers for Earl Spencer, the 45 year old younger brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, plan to settle his divorce case with former wife, Countess Caroline Spencer, in order to keep the proceedings out of public gaze. The move followed the lawyers failure to insure that the bitterly contested proceedings would be held behind closed doors and away from the press. The court recently ruled that the media should be allowed to report the case, in line with new laws on coverage of family court hearings. The decision appears to have forced the pair to rethink how they felt about airing deeply personal …
Michael Jackson - the Husband and the Divorces.
Following allegations of sexual molestation charges involving a 13 year boy in 1993, Michael Jackson married Lisa Marie Presley in De La Vega, Santa Domingo in May of 1994. Although many have theorized that the marriage was publicity stunt created to cast Jackson in a better light, Presley has consistently denied this over the years. Citing irreconcilable differences, Jackson and Presley separated on December 10, 1995 and divorced in January of 1996. Presley now has 2 children from her 6 year marriage to musician Danny Keough. In November of 1996, Jackson married Debbie Rowe, a nurse he had …
Therapists Suggest Divorce Counseling for the Gosselins
When a salvaging a difficult marriage is beyond hope, therapists today will often suggest divorce counseling to help the couple get past their anger and create a civil relationship for the sake of the children. In the case of Jon and Kate and their 8 children, this is exactly what the mental health professionals are recommending. Divorce counseling is a relatively new concept in the mental health field whereby psychologists work with the couple to strengthen their communication and negotiation skills. When there are children involved, the process also helps the couple to accept the end o …
The Long Distance Parenting Plan
When drafting a long distance parenting plan, it is important to consider the following: How far in advance must travel arrangements be made? How will you communicate with your former spouse about travel plans for your child? If your child is too young to travel alone, who will escort the child to their destination? How will you address travel expenses? Will both parents share in the expense? How will the other parent communicate with the child after they have arrived at their destination? Will they be able to communicate via email? Will they have consistent access to a …
Jon and Kate- Will their "Nesting" Arrangement Work?
Last night, after months of speculation, reality stars Jon and Kate Gosselin announced on their hit program that they were separating. Later in the show, text rolled across the screen indicating that a divorce action had been filed in Pennsylvania. Experts now wonder: What will happen to their 8 children? Will they be protected from the public spectacle of a messy divorce played out over the airwaves? Will they be spared the prying cameras as their parents navigate the family courts? One positive sign is the couple has, for now, decided to implement a parenting plan known as "nesting" …
Actors Jane Kaczmarek and Bradley Whitford to Divorce
Actress Jane Kaczmarek, formerly of Malcolm in the Middle, and actor Bradley Whitford, formerly of The West Wing, have filed for divorce in Los Angeles. Married since 1992, the couple have children, Frances, 12, George, 9, and Mary Louisa 6. A representative for Whitford has stated that the couple hopes the media will respect their privacy during this difficult time.
Jon and Kate Plus 8 Headed for Divorce?
Reality TV stars, Jon and Kate, don't appear to be thinking much about their 8 children these days. With Kate having an affair with her bodyguard and Jon dating a 23 year old school teacher, the pair seem to be focusing on matters other than the health and well being of their brood. Prior to the success of their show, in which they now make $75,000 per episode, the pair barely generated that amount per year between the two of them. Hopefully, however, the young stars will soon realize that money isnt everything and start to prioritize their marriage and their family for the sake of the k …
Rich Harris on the Tom Martino Show - Fox 31 News
President and Managing Partner of The Harris Law Firm, Rich Harris will appear on the Tom Martino Show on Fox 31 TV on Monday, June 1st from 9 am to 10 am to discuss Colorado family law. The show will be re-broadcast on KWGN Channel 2 at 11 am.
2009 Eventful Year for Octo-Mel!
Only 6 weeks after Mel Gibson's wife filed for divorce after 28 years of marriage, Mel announced that he and girlfriend Oksana Grigorieve are expecting a child. The 53 year old actor has 7 children with wife Robyn, but they have been separated for almost 3 years. Teased by Jay Leno, host of The Tonight Show, about saving so many children, Gibson remarked, "I guess I'm OctoMel now!"
Sean Penn Calls Off Divorce for the 2nd Time
Oscar winning actor Sean Penn who recently filed for divorce for the second time in 16 months, has now withdrawn his motion and wants to dismiss his case for a legal separation from actress Robin Wright Penn. Mr. Penn has stated that he acted in anger and should not have filed. It has been rumored that Mr. Penn has been having a relationship with actress Natalie Portman.
Rich Harris Discusses Family Law on Tom Martino Show
Rich Harris, President and Managing Partner of The Harris Law Firm, discussed the modification of parenting time on the Tom Martino Show on KHOW yesterday. Rich will be discussing Colorado family law with Tom Martino on KHOW 630 AM every Wednesday at 12:30 pm
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Attorney Margaret Walker Named Pro Bono Coordinator
Rich Harris, President and Managing Partner of The Harris Law Firm in Denver, Colorado is pleased to announce that family law attorney Margaret "Peggy" Walker has been named the new "Pro Bono Coordinator" for the firm. Ms. Walker will coordinate the with the firm's 13 family law attorneys to provide free legal services to those who cannot afford a lawyer. Ms. Walker has practiced family law in the State of Colorado since 1977, and is a former law professor with the University of Denver Sturm College of Law. In addition to her practice as a family law attorney for Th …
Supporting Children from Different Marriages
The obligation to support a child of a previous marriage does not end when a parent remarries and has additional children. The Colorado Court will not allow a parent to violate a child support obligation simply because he or she has new children to care for. Understandably the cost of supporting children is substantial; however if a parent ignores their financial obligation and that responsibility falls into the hands of the government to support the child, the Child Support Enforcement Agency will seek to garnish the parents wages to pay for child support and any arrearages.
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How Children Can Adjust to Divorce
Author Nancy Holyoke's new book, "A Smart Girl's Guide to Her Parents Divorce: How to Land on Your Feet When Your World Turns Upside Down" offers many tips for girls facing this upset in their lives. She offers tips such as: 1. Recognize that you will not feel awful forever. Time helps, emotions cool and situations change. 2. Know that the divorce is not your fault. 3. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, which may include anger, sadness and grief. 4. It's okay to speak with another adult about how you feel: Friends, neighbors, family, therapists Published by American …
The End of the Special Advocate
In 2005, the Colorado Governor signed into law a revised version of the special advocate statute. Although this term is sometimes still used, this revised statute created very different positions and gave distinct qualifications, duties and responsibilities. To view this article in its entirety, please click here:
Determining Parenting Time in Colorado
Parenting time in the State of Colorado is decided according to the best interests of the child statute. Multiple factors are considered by the court and include the age of the child, the physical distance between the parents' residences, and the childs' physical and emotional needs. The parents abilities to maintain a respectful and professional relationship and to promote healthy parent-child interactions are also considerations. If either parent has a criminal history, that is likely to be a factor relevant in the decsion making process when determining parenting time . Located in Denver ( …
Emancipation Under Colorado Law
Emancipation is a far more complicated issue than most people realize. The State of Colorado recognizes different ages of emancipation depending on the legal matter in question. Generally, a minor will be deemed emancipated if the minor is lawfully married, has joined the military, or can otherwise prove that they are living on their own and are self supporting. It may also be possible to petition the Court to grant emancipation, but this is only available in limited circumstances. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest fami …
Step Parent Adoption
For a step-parent to adopt a child in the State of Colorado, they must be married to the consenting biological parent for at least one year. They must also reside in Colorado, and must be at least 21 years of age. If the child to be adopted is over the age of 12, his or her consent to the adoption is also required by the Colorado court. At the time of petition for adoption is filed, the child must be under the age of 18, legally available for adoption, and living in Colorado. Persons over the age of 18, but under the age of 21, may also be adopted as a child, but only upon approval of the cour …
Parental Alientation
Often times during a child custody and/or child support dispute, the parents act in ways adverse to the best interests of the children. Parents may attempt to voluntarily or involuntarily turn the child against the other parent. To view this article in its' entirety, please click here:
Protecting Children After a Parent Dies
When a parent dies, the court will appoint a guardian to care and supervise a minor child until the child reaches the age of majority. So the court will not appoint someone of whom you would not approve, it is best to appoint a guardian in your will. To view this article in it's entirety, please click here:
What is a Child Family Investigator (CFI)?
A CFI is an individual appointed by the court to conduct an investigation and make recommendations to the court regarding parental decision making responsibilities and parenting time. The CFI is usually a licensed therapist or has a background in psychology and/or counseling.
Create a Foundation for a New Beginning
There is no quick and easy method for working through the pain of divorce, but you must be aware that you will heal over time. The growth process inherent in divorce will bring with it the hope and the strength that you need to create the sound foundation for a new and better life. To view this article in it's entirety, please click here:
Actor Alec Baldwin Writes Divorce Guide for Men
Actor Alec Baldwin, who stars with actress/writer Tina Fey on the NBC sitcom, "30 Rock", is also the author of a new book for men regarding the divorce process. Baldwin, who was married to actress Kim Bassinger, recently published a book about divorce titled "A Promise to Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood and Divorce."
When Can A Child Decide?
Many states in the US will allow children to decide with whom they wish to reside when they reach a certain age. In Colorado, a court is not required to rule in favor of the child's request. A court may consider the child's wishes, depending upon the child's maturity, the reasonableness of the request, and to what extent the Court perceives the child's wishes as his or her own. To view this article in it's entireity, please click here Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Co …
Divorce: What to Tell Your Children
It is important to be honest with your children during the divorce process. Speak to them in a direct manner and emphasize that your separation is permanent. Reassure them that the divorce is not their fault. Stress that the stabiliity and structure of their lives will remain constant, and they are and will continue to be loved by both parents. Finally, encourage them to talk to you about their feelings and allow them to openly express their emotions in a safe environment. To view this article in it's entirety, please click here: Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472 …
Rights of an Unwed Father
It is difficult to say with any certainty what rights an unwed father has prior to the determination of parental responsibility. This is one of the reasons why the father should submit to a paternity test following the birth of the child. Since Colorado favors the involvement of both parents, the Court usually awards each parent at least some parenting time
Protecting Children from Parental Abductions
In the absence of an existing court order, there can be no custodial abduction and either parent is within his or her rights to take the child anywhere they choose. There are specific ways, however, to protect yourself and your child from a possible parental abduction. To view this article in it's entirety, please click here: Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Colorado Divorce and Colorado Child Custody and Support, the firm's philosophy is to work with you to resolve you …
Will the Court Consider a Child's Wishes Regarding Parenting Time?
Colorado courts do not have to take into consideration a child's wishes regarding parenting time, but the court may choose to consider them. To view this article in it's entirety, please click here Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclusively on Colorado Divorce and Colorado Child Custody and Support, the firm's philosophy is to work with you to resolve your legal matter in the best way possible. When you consult with one of our attorneys, the expert legal advice you receive will …
Colorado Parenting Time and Child Support
Colorado law favors meaningful and continuing contact between both parents and the child following a divorce. Couples who separate usually arrive at a parenting plan in one of two ways: Either the parties come to an agreement as to how the responsibilities are to be divided and the agreement is subsequently accepted by the Court, or the Court considers the evidence and crafts a parenting plan as part of permanent orders. Even in cases where one parent stipulates (agrees) to a parenting plan with little or no parental responsibility, there is no guarantee that the Cour …
Grandparents Rights
A grandparent has the right to petition for visitation if the parents are divorced or separated. However, in order to rebut due process presumptions in favor of the parent deciding on appropriate visitation with the grandparents, the grandparents must demonstrate to the court by clear and convincing evidence that the visitation schedule they seek, and not the visitation schedule the parent seeks, is in the best interests of the child. Located in Denver (303) 299-9484 and Fort Collins (970) 472-1838, The Harris Law Firm is Colorado's largest family law firm. Focusing exclu …
