Commitment is the Key to a Successful Marriage

Regardless of how compatible the two of you are now, marital conflict during the course of your relationship is an inevitable fact of life. But not being in agreement on every issue is really not what is important to consider in your marriage because the vast majority of issues that couples argue about can be resolved. The real point to consider is whether or not your partner can stay in the relationship when your interaction becomes strained. Will he or she be willing to go to couples counseling to learn the skills necessary to deal with conflict, or will he or she simply distance themselves from the relationship? Before you marry, make sure that you discuss the difficult issues, and start with your vows. If you are only able to deal with for better, for richer and for health, you two are going to have problems when your lives become challenging. And while you are talking, talk about life’s hardships: job loss, financial setbacks, infidelity, infertility, aging parents, and illness. Since one party can file to terminate the marriage without consent of their partner, it is important to know what circumstances would drive them to file for divorce. So, when you decide to marry, make sure that your partner understands the ramifications of the concept of "commitment." If you both have the ability to commit to the relationship and consider your union as an entity whose importance is far greater than the individual needs of each spouse, most of your differences will be those that can be worked through over time. Knowing that your prospective partner is willing to take the good with the bad is the important thing to consider before you ultimately say "I do."

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