Most people will probably live alone after divorce, and this can take some getting used to, especially if you were married for several years. While living alone after divorce may seem like a sad or scary thing, you will adjust and may even relish in your newfound “single” life. Even if you are awarded primary care of your children after divorce, living without your spouse will take some getting used to, but millions of people do it each year, and you can, too. It’s important to be strong and assure your children that while life as they knew it has certainly changed, their new lives can be as safe, secure and stable as they were prior to your divorce or more so even.
Divorce (and the subsequent new life alone) is one of the most stressful events a person will experience in his/her lifetime, and while it may seem overwhelming at first, it’s something that you can handle with love and support from family, friends and support groups. Suddenly being on your own to deal with issues such as money, children, career changes and downsizing the family home can seem overwhelming. For this reason, it’s important to seek advice and guidance from others who have gone through what you’re going through.
Here are some tips to help you thrive while living alone after divorce:
- Realize that there is life after divorce
- Avoid denial and face your new life with gusto
- Don’t wallow in self-pity
- Remove extreme thoughts such as “I’ve lost everything” and “I’ll be alone for the rest of my life” from your mind
- Don’t waste time regretting mistakes made in the past or what could have been
- Set a good example for your children by behaving in a positive, hopeful way
If you are faced with living alone after divorce and need advice, ask a free legal question. The Colorado divorce lawyers at the Harris Law Firm can help.