Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
By Diane Wall
Why is it so hard for women to admit or even recognize that they are in an abusive relationship? One reason is because it takes years of manipulation and beating a woman down until she no longer recognizes herself and she doesn’t have anyone in her life to remind her of who she used to be. There are good memories that keep her hopeful that if she just tries hard enough she can get things back to the way they were. After years of being told the problems are her fault, she believes it and feels she can change things.
Imagine years of subtle abuse from a man who is good-looking, charming, smart, funny, and all your friends and family think he’s great. Imagine talking to yourself about how what he said or did isn’t really THAT bad (after all, it could be worse – he could hit you.) If you’re confused or you feel a little crazy, you’re not very likely to speak up.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Is he jealous?
- Does he accuse you of being unfaithful?
- Is he bossy or demanding?
- Has he asked you to not spend time with family or friends?
- Do you feel you are “walking on egg shells” when he’s around?
- Does he blame others when things don’t go his way?
- Does he criticize you?
- Does he make threats?
- Does he give you the silent treatment?
These are all warning signs of an abusive relationship. Notice there doesn't need to be any physical violence in order for it to be abusive.
Diane Wall is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice at 6th & Wadsdworth. Her passion is in helping women through difficult transitions such as divorce, grief, loss, trauma, and leaving unhealthy relationships. You can visit her website here, or give her a call at (303) 507-3738.
Abuse is a serious issue far too many people face every day, at we here at the Harris Law Firm are committed to providing those in need with the resources and legal representation they require to reclaim control of their lives. Take a look at our pages on abuse protection and domestic violence for more information, or contact us today by calling us at (303) 622-5502 or by filling out our online form to begin discussing your case with one of our family law attorneys.