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Ensuring Your Safety During a Divorce

Even absent of safety concerns, divorce is one of the most stressful times in a person’s life. When dealing with a potentially violent spouse or ex-spouse, the stress is exponentially greater. Knowing how to protect yourself during divorce and your children from physical or psychological abuse is of primary importance. It is critical to know your options when faced with a violent or potentially violent partner.

If you are in imminent danger, contact the police and seek shelter with a friend, family member, or domestic violence shelter immediately.

Restraining Orders

In some situations, it can be difficult and painful to protect yourself during a divorce. One option, of course, is to get a restraining order against the other party*. At the end of the day, however, a restraining order is only a piece of paper. It can certainly discourage someone from committing an act of violence, but it cannot prevent him or her from actually committing the act.

The real value in having a restraining order is to ensure that the restrained party will face repercussions if they continue to stalk, threaten or commit abuse. In short, it is very important not to get a false sense of security simply by having a restraining order.

If you feel your safety or your children’s safety is in danger because of the threats or acts of your significant other, there are steps you can take in addition to getting a restraining order.

Protect Your Values With a Safety Deposit Box

You may also want to consider opening a safety deposit box to secure such items as your birth certificate, passport, will and other legal papers, any jewelry that was bought by you prior to the marriage, inherited or gifted to you, irreplaceable treasures such as cards from loved ones or family photos, diplomas or degree certificates and extra sets of keys to vehicles and the residence.

Have a Safe Place Prepared

Next, decide in advance where you can go if violence erupts. This could include a domestic violence shelter, the home of a family member or close friend, or even a neighbor. The key is to plan ahead and let people know that you may need their help in an emergency. This is no time to be embarrassed! It is a good idea to have a couple days worth of clothing and toiletries for you and your children either in the trunk of your car or readily available at a friend or family member’s home.

Make Your Home Secure

If you are living on your own, consider getting an alarm system installed with a panic button that can immediately summon the police. If your significant other has been ordered to move out of the marital residence, change the locks immediately as well as the code on the garage door. Have a fully charged cordless or cellular telephone nearby that you can take with you to a secure, locked area in the home if the other party gets into the residence. If you have children, establish where they should go in the home in case of an emergency and a have a code word or signal that will alert them of the same. You will also need to discuss with them places outside the home they can turn to for help, as well as how to contact the police in a crisis.

Keep a Record of the Abuse

Keep a log that details every incident of violence or threats of violence. Additionally, save all menacing written correspondence, e-mails and telephone messages. This information is very handy should you need to testify about past, traumatic events. Most importantly, never second-guess your instincts and get help immediately if you feel you are in danger.

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